Premarital counseling is a form of guidance that couples seek before marriage. It is actually a type of therapy that helps couples prepare for marriage and it is not necessarily used to resolve problems between couples, but rather to make the upcoming marriage strong. Although, couples often go to therapists for premarital counseling when they start to face problems in their relationship before getting married, this type of counseling is more of couples counseling or couples therapy.
Most commonly, couples go to a Marriage and Family Therapist for premarital counseling and the therapist will help identify differences that could become bigger problems later in marriage. Premarital counseling helps partners improve their ability to communicate, set realistic expectations for marriage and develop conflict-resolution skills. By discussing differences and expectations before marriage, couples can better understand and support each other during marriage. In addition, your counselor might ask you and your partner questions to find out your unique visions for your marriage and clarify what you can do to make positive changes in your relationship.
Even though some guidance prior your wedding may be important to you, you may feel that it is difficult to make it a priority with the wedding planning and its cost. However, keep in mind that therapists are willing to work around your schedule and even hold online sessions by Skype. And the cost doesn’t have to be so high. Therapy session fees depend on where you live. For example a Marriage and Family Therapist in Orange County, CA can charge as little as $35 per session, where as a therapist in New York City may charge something like $150 per session. Couples have to think of it as an investment into their marriage and the rest of their lives, which should be well worth any amount. Preparing for marriage involves more than throwing a party. Take the time to build a solid foundation for your relationship.